An often asked question by unhappy married persons essentially asks. Is there really some marriages that are happy ones? Happy marriages occur when two people provide for the reasonable needs of their spouse in an understanding way. They do it cause it’s a special gesture that they would not ordinarily do for others but for their spouse they are willing to take the leap. They want to fulfill a need and they want mutuality.
They encourage, appreciate, celebrate and argue but have learned to agree to disagree a good deal of the time. They soothe, touch, hug and create an inviting space to be in not one to run away from.
Not so easy but hey some marriage s figure it out.
Some are modeled after their family non-role models and that drags your marriage down into a place that’s familiar but not what or where you want your marriage to be .
Some of marriage has to be a creation fashioned by the two of you. It comes about from a bit of conflict turned into a new mutual vision for your marriage. One that bares your marriages unique stamp on it. Not your family. Not your friends. But intimately your creation.The unique creation that wouldn’t have happened if the two of you hadn’t crafted it into the saga of the evolution of your special marriage connection.
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Time moving along and you find yourselves in the same unhappy marital place. You’re together but really far apart. It’s hard to spend time together when you’re fighting or not getting any of your needs met. In fact it really sucks!
Get yourselves out of that marital quicksand. You both know you weren’t always there. You had a life where you really cared about your lover and friend. So do anything you possibly can to move your marriage to a simpler place. Let’s do something tonight honey …….Let’s take a discovery drive somewhere we haven’t been. It will be fun and a lot better than running away from each other in the house every day for what seems like forever
So what’s the point here about unhappy marriages that just languish in the status quo…… you know same old same old day to week to month to years. Someone has to take the bull by the horn and pull or push your current situation to a new one. It’s a lot easier to do nothing but if you do nothing you will have nothing.
Get out and do one thing. Do something for your partner that you know makes them happy. Vacuum the house get some ice-cream….but please for the sake of each other just do something together. This is definitely worth the effort you two.
By the way you are not alone and most couples need a pull or a push to shake off the stagnant way of life they’ve been conducting.
So from me to you….. here is a kind gentle but swift Pull & Push to get you off your pessimistic frame of mind into one that might just move your marriage forward.
To Your Happier Marriage!
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