Harsh Fighting: Your Brain & Flight/Fright
Negative communication isn’t just disappointing it’s damaging to your relationship and relationships You might not recognize that damage in the heat of argument but your 24hr/7day week on board Brain definitely does.
If you’re arguing yelling and fighting constantly you’re sending messages to each others brain that this is’nt a safe place and fear is prevalent. Our brains are always scanning the environment for threats. read more…
Adult Play Time
OK..Yes.. I’m definitely harping on the adult play focus. I must be telling myself something by getting a similar message out twice in a row on the blog. Its winter….It’s cold here…people spend a lot of time indoors so why not be creative and transformational as well. read more…
Take Stock of Your Relationship Status Quo
Same old same old. Same crap different day. As a couples therapist I have witnessed couples who are stuck in a highly developed Status Quo with the dials set on very unhappy. You can think of it as your Relationship Status Quo (RSQ). Your RSQ can be favorable or unfavorable. I have been married 29 years and believe me our relationship was stuck in a mutually non rewarding RSQ. read more…
Fall in Love …Making Love …Sustaining Love
We fall in love and we make love challenging us to sustain our love so we can continue making love.
Sustaining love is in fulfilling our partners’ needs as best we can. The manner in which we conduct our marriage relates directly to the potential for a marriage filled with regular love making and sometimes with firework displays.
RECAPTURE YOUR INTIMATE MEMORIES
When was the last time you thought about those dreamy and steamy times when you first met. They are your archives your own private treasure trove of real intimate memories. Let’s take this a bit further. Remember your intimate times…… the first deep kiss, touching each other in private ways. The first time you made steamy, hot, passionate love. It was like being drunk with passion for each other and you couldn’t wait for the opportunity to do it again. read more…