If your marriage is stuck in a rut or what could be called the unhappy status quo of marriage, the first step in making any moves to improve your situation always start with you. You can be bitter and angry lashing out at every opportunity fueled by a full tank of negativity. Many do that.
If your marriage is stuck in a rut or what could be called the unhappy status quo of marriage, the first step in making any moves to improve your situation always start with you. You can be bitter and angry lashing out at every opportunity fueled by a full tank of negativity. Many do that.
Projecting and wearing your bitterness….drowning in a soupy funk about the state of your relationship and what it ‘s not, never bodes well for you and sends a very usual status quo message to your partner to expect relationship business as usual . The right frame of mind better represents you and sends a message of business not as usual…. self -respect…personal integrity which are important relationship growth ingredients.
There are many way’s to shake off the sticky negative inertia, anger and frustration that accompany a stagnant unhappy marriage. Here is one idea I share with my clients that can get you some relief and clarity.
So imagine you are in an art class and painting style of the day is throw art. Take the paintbrush dip it in the paint and throw it against the canvas. Just throw that negative paint up against the canvass. Splatter it on the canvas Get it off of you and on to that canvas. Empty your jar of bitterness, anger and frustration.
Shake off the negative….get rid of the anger. Come on get into it…We all deserve some relief…..you deserve it…….. so cast the negativity out…… vanquish it even if relief lasts just for a few moments…it’s good to taste relief.
What do you see on the floor or canvas in front of you? You see the mess…… all that negative stuff you’ve been carrying around… what you’ve been projecting to your spouse. You see the way you’ve been feeling. You see what your spouse sees sticking to you… predictable… status quo negative stuff!
You see the obstacles that are blocking your ability to visualize and move towards a more collaborative and intimate space with your spouse.
Now that you have a clearer site of vision you’ll see and be open to other options and your spouse and others will see a different you.
If you’re looking for a new beginning …. Begin with you.
Always look forward to your comments and opinions.
Warmly
Zev
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