Patrolling Your Marriage Borders
Did you ever notice that challenging circumstances in your marriage always seem to happen at your individual border and boundaries? Think of yourselves as two neighborhoods in the city of Marriage. You each have patrols which are on the lookout for threats to the rules you live under in your neighborhood. Challenges, demands, frustrations and needs coming from your partner in the other neighborhood are met with fierce resistance or represent onslaughts that are just too powerful to stand up against. So threats are defended against or they over-run you.
What Happened to the Relationship I Fell in Love With?
Remember the beginning of your relationship when you fell in love with this special person who showed you so much love and attention. Where did they go? You got married and at some point you realized that all that wonderful attention and love which by the way was the reason, perhaps the clincher of why you married in the first place has left the premises or just went poof and vanished. read more…
Yelling and Screaming is Damaging
If the ultimate goal of your marriage is to really feel fulfilled and connected well you’re going to have to communicate effectively and with results that bring you closer instead of pushing you apart. So where to start? Let’s think about our daily contacts morning evening weekend phone text email touch. Wherever our relationship is or isn’t is determined by the quality and tone of our contacts in all mediums . It’s the message we’re getting and sending to each other. read more…
Conflict in Every Marriage Give Yourselves a Break!
After counseling couples for over 23 years and this being my 60th birthday I’m in a reflective mood.
So I have seen that when we agree to marriage we agree to some conflict. Somewhere in our minds we know we’ve heard this isn’t all hot sex and whispering sweet nothings in each others ear. After the plunge we see that we don’t just don’t agree on all matters and some of these cause conflict.
So what’s the take home…….stop being so hard on yourself and your spouse and find a way to weather the ebbs and tides of conflict and break real with each other. read more…
Relight the Fire in Your Marriage
Things getting a bit boring between you two..Well here’s some ways to Relight the Fire and heat things up a bit
You Two have to talk to eachother to clear the air and get things back on track…
So Have the conversation and start in a place that make sense to both of you ……..Just start and see what happens!
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ZEV