Self-Soothe and Soothe Your Spouse

Let’s talk about self soothing and soothing our spouses for a moment. Have you ever heard anything bad about soothing. For example, ” it was just awful the way She/he soothed me. It just made me feel so damn good”. ” Honey, I wish you wouldn’t soothe me like that it...

Start A Fire in Your Marriage

What’s the one thing we know about fire? It can spread from a small spark to a huge event. So encouraging you to re-light the fire in your marriage by taking some small steps and get your mind off the end game. In marriages with little romance couples try to much or...

Do it With Me Not Just for Me

Some of us do a lot of things for our spouses. They ask us or they want us to do these things for many reasons. We do them because we care or feel obligated or both. There is however so many things our partners want us to do with them together and not just for them....

Patrolling Your Marriage Borders

Did you ever notice that challenging circumstances in your marriage always seem to happen at your individual border and boundaries? Think of yourselves as two neighborhoods in the city of Marriage. You each have patrols which are on the lookout for threats to the...

Yelling and Screaming is Damaging

If the ultimate goal of your marriage is to really feel fulfilled and connected well you’re going to have to communicate effectively and with results that bring you closer instead of pushing you apart. So where to start? Let’s think about our daily contacts morning...